congratulations on your high self-esteem, but you are mistaken if you think anyone is interested in your opinion of their body parts. I want them to know that I don’t have to smile, or react at all, to their backhanded compliments. I want them to know that I don’t exist for them to look at, I don’t get dressed for them, and however I have put myself together on this day—it is not for you
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-via http://rookiemag.com/2011/09/male-gaze/
i’ve tried to explain this on several occasions to several of the men i work with. I love them dearly but they really don’t seem to understand that most of us girls are dressing for OURSELVES. It worries me that perhaps the girls they know well or have dated are dressing only for men and so this concept goes straight over their heads :/
